Today I am so grateful that I am a woman who was born in the United States at the time I was born. I have the opportunity to freely express myself as a woman (and own the consequences). In the coming weeks I am going to be highlighting the ways that the Feminist/ERA movement has harmed my generation, but today I’m about gratitude.
Gratitude that because I am a woman I can be a mom. I loved the feeling of growing a human being inside my body, feeling the child kick and move and sit on my ribs. I loved knowing this person before birth – feeling a connection that only intensified in that second they were placed on my belly after birth. I love that as a woman my body is soft and snuggly – not manly – to provide a comforting hug.
I love creating a peaceful home for my boys. Call me crazy, but most of the time I even love the laundry and cooking and cleaning that goes with it. It’s how I show my love. I love that the people I have the most fun with are the ones that I gave birth to. I love that as they grow up, when something bad or good or funny happens they want to tell ME.
I love that as a woman I have a quiet strength – I don’t have to stomp and scream to make a point. A confident woman can assess a situation and quietly affect change. I enjoy that mystical thing called woman’s intuition. I am concerned with feelings and flowers and love jewelry and high heels. I like pretty dresses and handbags and everything girly.
I also have a career, pay my own bills – don’t rely on a man for anything material at all. Someday I would love to be in a relationship where we are equals, with a man who appreciates and celebrates my femininity. Until then, I’m secure and happy with myself as a woman and don’t look to a man to give me worth.
So, in honor of International Women’s Day I say thank you to God for letting me be born in a time and place where my confident voice would not get me killed. Thank You for allowing me to be a mother – a way to fully express myself as a woman and influence the next generation.
(Cross posted from Oh You’re Right March 8, 2012.)